Vulnerability is NOT a weakness.

Vulnerability is your greatest STRENGTH! ….and I can prove it.

Yes, my friends, I’m going there because someone needs to say it.

Over the last 11 years that I’ve consciously studied networking and human connection, I’ve come across an abundance of external techniques, tricks and processes that absolutely worked to influence and persuade people to do what we want, BUT

the #1 most effective thing I’ve found to create instant connection is being vulnerable.

I probably should call this a secret since most business people I’ve worked with don’t believe that something like Vulnerability is their greatest strength in generating more leads and closing more sales.

Now I can dice that up to:

  • Being “present”
  • Authenticity
  • Sincerity
  • Making it about them: Show them you care
  • Not trying to “talk over” something
  • Being Compassionate
  • Treat them like a human!

But here I am again answering the question I get most “Thomas, how the heck do so many cool people know your name and speak so highly of you?”

Well it’s always a weird thing, because I figure I’m looking in the mirror and having a conversation with another human being.  Too simple? 

  • How would I like to be treated?
  • What would I ask me if I was in front of myself?  <—ok that’s a mind blower!

Learning to connect, starting a conversation, cultivating likeablity…it’s not a mystery. Some people make it hard, but really it’s far more simple if you let go and use this guidance.

Don’t believe me….how about watching a world renowned researcher share what she found…

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Brené Brown studies human connection — our ability to empathize, belong, love. In a poignant, funny talk, she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest to know herself as well as to understand humanity.

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